I was married for 20 years and it should have last 3 days.
Previous to marrying my ex-husband I had a long engagement to a high-school sweetheart that did not work out and so I may have still been on the re-bound. But hey…if long engagements don’t work out, why not have a short one!
I met my (ex) husband while selling film and he kept coming back to the film and camera store to buy more film. I thought he was handsome, romantic, intelligent, unique, adventuresome and charming. Our romantic, fun fling lasted for three months of seeing each other every day. Then we went to Vegas to get married and I brought with us my parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends…he brought no one…he said he had been adopted and was not in good relationship with his adopted parents.
He asked me to marry him by saying “What would you say if I asked you to marry me?” and I said, “What would you say if I said ‘yes’?” …so off we went.
We stayed Vegas 2 days and drove ‘home’ the third day to a tiny apartment. My parents gave us a thousand dollars and he bought a motorcycle. The first week was so intense with him that I got sick. There was no air in the tiny apartment and he shut all the windows tight and said I needed to ’sweat it out’. When I tried to open a bedroom window he stopped me. So I put a few things in a bag and told him I was going home to my parents to get some rest and get well. As I was walking down the long stairs of our upstairs apartment I realized I had forgotten my car keys…so he threw them down at me as hard he could as if he meant to hit me. He was angry and luckily he missed.
This went on for 20 years and only got worse. I had two daughters with this man. He never stopped abusing me and I am ‘lucky’ I got away from him. Someday I will write a book so that other women can know they are not crazy and they just need to get away from the ‘crazyness’ by whatever means they can….and…I would firstly suggest to them that they study, meditate and become strong conscious manifesters by focusing on what they WANT and not what they do not want.
I am now happily married for almost 12 years and I consider him to be an angel. He is not without faults…but the difference is…I have married myself. We are like two peas in a pod and we both know we will spend the rest of our lives together…and even after so many years of marriage we seldom even go to the corner store without each other.
I attribute our ‘finding’ each other to conscious manifesting.

In the beginning…Earle and I didn’t know each other (but we did!) and yet, we were both practicing writing down on paper descriptions of our perfect mate…and we believe we were maznitized to each other. On our first ‘official’ date my ‘to be’ showed me his list of his ‘perfect mate’ that he was creating. This was on our way to the movies and I about fell through his car seat…it was an OMG experience I will never forget as I had been writing a ‘list’ on paper as well. And although our courtship was short we moved in together and lived together for two years before deciding to get married…(and we were not going to get married at all…we had not planned it…but things happened that ‘told us’ that we were to be married and so we did)
Tthere is a book here covering a life time of un-conscious and very conscious manifesting that I feel it needs to be written for women who feel they are trapped into non-functioning and even abusive relationships. Most psychologist will tell us that we will most likely attract the same type of relationship again and again and I am here to tell women (in particular) that they do not have to buy into that life sentence and that it can be quit the total opposite.
I will end here.
Please forgive me but I could not find an email for you and I have something more to share with you so I am going to share it here. I think you might be interested in knowing about HUB. My husband, Earle, and I, are working with the co-founder of HUB and we believe this is a planet changing organization.
Here is my web site: http://www.PlanetaryConnections.com
We are in pre-launch and there are about 1,000 high level manifestors coming together to share in making life changes.

Thank you for reading my ’script’.
(there is much more that could be written here on my personal conscious manifesting…just too much to write here now). I really just wanted to open the door to further communication if there is an interest in doing so.

Blessings,
Nancy Belle
949-350-2851 cell
planetnews8@gmail.com
http://www.PlanetaryConnections.com

Second, many people, from the whole spectrum of life, know one another for a long time before marrying and then, everything changes when they sign the dotted line. This is not necessarily due to fear of intimacy or lack of commitment.

Once the line is crossed into marriage, an additional set of beliefs moves into the relationship. Those of what it means to be “husband” and “wife” according to at least two different sets of conditioning around these concepts. It’s like having all the parents move into the relationship.

Conditioning happens at a pre-cognitive, pre-verbal level of development, so what just happened is not obvious or logical.

I find Harville Hendrix books “Getting the Love You Want”, and “Keeping the Love You Find” excellent resources on this phenomenon.

Namaste,
Aila
http://www.ailaspeaks.com

WBR,
Alex

Hollywood stars are not the only ones who suffer from not being able to relationships and personal life stuff right! (We have a few celeb sporting stars in Australia who have stuffed their lives up big time.)

It is not only relationships that they have problems with but it seems that many of them have problems with many aspects of their personal lives.

Maybe because they easily do their work because they are so talented, they tend to think that everything in life is easy but as you say relationships take much work, effort and commitment… getting into them because it seems like “a cool thing to do” isn’t a solid foundation for any relationship. Especially the relationship you have with yourself.

Jeanne
http://www.goalsnaspirations.com

You wrote:
“Sometimes we’re afraid (of change, of commitment, of intimacy, of sharing our deepest souls and thoughts with another person)… but we can overcome that fear, if we want to.”

That’s as yes, as how it to say… One of my blogs (Modus Vivendi http://trustlight.blogspot.com ) is dedicated to art therapy club of people with the psychiatric disorders. The artist aren’t afraid of change, of commitment, of intimacy, of sharing their deepest souls and thoughts with another person… – while looking inside we discover the most wonderful gardens of the awesome flowers , but, unfortunately, our want to share the fragrance isn’t enough to do that. There is the tremendous abysm between our desires and the possibilities in the concrete. The kind of relationship we have sweetens the sorrowful destiny of the disabled, but cant us equip with the tools for the artwork. We joyfully share what we have with all who just want to look at us, but all we have is just our gratitude. We desperately need the support. My disability pension isn’t enough to pay the internet fees plus I need a good laptop, the CorellDraw program … what to talk about the daily bread that is costly indeed to the jobless disabled who work on voluntary basis (earn nothing except Thank You).

Let me end with the hot plea… please help us to live with open eyes. I see one and only solution of my current problems in your generosity. Please help us in our need to live in gratitude.
Thank you