Comments on: Committed to Commitment (Investigative Report) http://www.lwlworldwide.com/blog/committed-to-commitment-investigative-report/ Insights, Commentary and Lessons On How To Live a Life Without Limits Tue, 07 Sep 2010 15:05:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Lyn Woodring http://www.lwlworldwide.com/blog/committed-to-commitment-investigative-report/comment-page-1/#comment-2780 Lyn Woodring Sat, 21 Nov 2009 16:45:17 +0000 http://www.lwlworldwide.com/blog/?p=1551#comment-2780 I'm confused after reading the commited to commitment report. I felt like I was reading a satire. The one thing I did get from the report is that those things you find irritating or offensive in others are usually a mirror of your own thoughts/actions/beliefs. I think it's universally true that actions and beliefs are always congruent. So I guess it all comes down to results in the end. But even that is a misleading statement because the middle may feel like the end. Sometimes you have to just hold on... <strong>[Heather's REPLY]</strong>: Hi Lyn, I don't know if I can help you to understand what we've written; as always, we're pretty clear in what we say. Perhaps your confusion stems from an unwillingness to look at your OWN relationship issues, I'm not sure. Yes, the mirror effect is often in play. In fact, it might be in effect here, because you found the report confusing... and yet you've written this confusing bit: "So I guess it all comes down to results in the end. But even that is a misleading statement because the middle may feel like the end. Sometimes you have to just hold on..." There are many "ends" during each process, Lyn. Whether you're talking about achieving a goal, and accomplishing many little steps along the way... or meeting a deadline, and dividing the work up into chunks... or cooking dinner, or making laundry, there are many mini milestones before the big one. If you break it down, everything you do (including relationships) is a smaller version of life as a whole... a journey and not a destination. I'm not sure how you're relating that to what you understood from the report, but thanks for the comment. I’m confused after reading the commited to commitment report. I felt like I was reading a satire. The one thing I did get from the report is that those things you find irritating or offensive in others are usually a mirror of your own thoughts/actions/beliefs.

I think it’s universally true that actions and beliefs are always congruent.

So I guess it all comes down to results in the end. But even that is a misleading statement because the middle may feel like the end.
Sometimes you have to just hold on…

[Heather's REPLY]:

Hi Lyn,

I don’t know if I can help you to understand what we’ve written; as always, we’re pretty clear in what we say. Perhaps your confusion stems from an unwillingness to look at your OWN relationship issues, I’m not sure.

Yes, the mirror effect is often in play. In fact, it might be in effect here, because you found the report confusing… and yet you’ve written this confusing bit:

“So I guess it all comes down to results in the end. But even that is a misleading statement because the middle may feel like the end. Sometimes you have to just hold on…”

There are many “ends” during each process, Lyn. Whether you’re talking about achieving a goal, and accomplishing many little steps along the way… or meeting a deadline, and dividing the work up into chunks… or cooking dinner, or making laundry, there are many mini milestones before the big one.

If you break it down, everything you do (including relationships) is a smaller version of life as a whole… a journey and not a destination.

I’m not sure how you’re relating that to what you understood from the report, but thanks for the comment.

]]> By: Rene http://www.lwlworldwide.com/blog/committed-to-commitment-investigative-report/comment-page-1/#comment-2779 Rene Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:48:17 +0000 http://www.lwlworldwide.com/blog/?p=1551#comment-2779 I could start telling long story about committed to commitment. However it would take space and some private details, maybe even a some positive comments. (maybe I was a "good" boy?). However, there is, in my experience something like a "FORCED" committed to commitment, well, to make it clear .... is it then not any longer a commitment? We can be "forced" to be committed by and through a belief system, (religions), even through political issues (I lived as a young teenager during WWII in Europe and yes, there were "forces" at work and many adults had to be committed to "the forcing power commitment". Am I clear enough here? Any ideas from someone? Thank you, RenĂ© I could start telling long story about committed to commitment. However it would take space and some private details, maybe even a some positive comments. (maybe I was a “good” boy?).

However, there is, in my experience something like a “FORCED” committed to commitment, well, to make it clear …. is it then not any longer a commitment?

We can be “forced” to be committed by and through a belief system, (religions), even through political issues (I lived as a young teenager during WWII in Europe and yes, there were “forces” at work and many adults had to be committed to “the forcing power commitment”.

Am I clear enough here? Any ideas from someone?
Thank you, René

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